Is there anything harder in this life than to forgive when you have been deeply wounded? We’ve all been there. We have all suffered the pain of a friend or family member’s betrayal. Yet, Jesus made it clear we have to forgive so we can be forgiven.
Unforgiveness eats us up from the inside out. It ferments and grows. It leaves us bitter, and it colors the way we see the world around us. It changes the way we treat others, and it keeps people at bay. It creates an invisible boundary we can’t seem to cross.
Forgiveness is an ambivalent thing. Ambivalent is having mixed feelings or contradictory ideas about a subject or person. It’s like a love-hate relationship. We don’t want to feel hateful and yet we do. We want to forgive, but why should we let them off so easily? The whole truth of the matter though is that we forgive them for our own benefit.
Forgiveness lifts a weight off our shoulders. It is an emotional catharsis, it cleanses us as we speak the words and the tears flow.
Forgiveness is a two-way street. Sometimes we give forgiveness and sometimes we ask for it. There are times we ask to be forgiven when we didn’t do anything, but we are stepping up to bridge the gap that has been created.
You can forgive anything. People have forgiven those who murdered their spouses or children, forgiven their rapist, what has been done to you that can’t be forgiven?
What have you done that others have forgiven? That Jesus has forgiven?
If you are struggling to forgive today…ask Jesus to help you. He will give you the strength to let it go. It isn’t always about going to the person and saying it out loud to them. You don’t always have that opportunity. If you can speak it out loud, into your own ears, and mean it, then the weight will roll-off. Relief will flood your soul and you will be free from the bondage of unforgiveness.